New Dad - Tips to help manage stress and prepare you for fatherhood

What an amazing thing it is to become a new Dad.

What an amazing thing it is to become a new Dad. However, with the incredible feelings of joy follows a certain amount of stress and expectation. Let's have a look and what is the best way to deal with the difficulties of parenthood and develop a rewarding relationship with your newborn. Becoming a dad for the first time can be an exciting and overwhelming experience. As a new father you can take many steps to prepare for the emotions and challenges that lay ahead both the short and long term future. These are a few easy steps to connect and become a part of your newly expanded family. To understand how to make your transition to fatherhood less stressful and more fulfilling. Take a moment and recognize the sources of stress. No one told you taking care of a newborn and juggling a relationship would be easy, because, quite simply, it isn't!

Limited paternity leave

If you are not able to take time off when the baby is born, it might be difficult to keep up your regular work schedule and find time to spend with your newborn. These are when the weekends and trying to get home early a day or two a week are important. Simple things like a phone call during the working day can help you feel a part of the action at home.

New responsibilities

Newborns require constant care and attention. On top of feedings, diaper changes and crying spells, parents must find time to do household chores and other daily activities. This can be stressful for new parents who are used to a more carefree or independent lifestyle. If you have the money try a cleaner once a fortnight but if things are a bit tight then be understanding if the household is not ‘kept’ like it once was.

Disrupted sleep

Newborns challenge their parents' ability to get a good night's sleep. Sleep deprivation can quickly take a toll on new mums and dads. This is a real issue and broken sleep for the male in the relationship can lead to issues at work and home. Remember it will get better and you may find yourself on the couch trying to get a continuous block of sleep. Give your partner the benefit of the doubt if they too are a little ‘frazzled’

Financial strain

The cost of your baby's delivery, health care, diapers, clothing and other supplies can add up quickly. The financial strain might be worse if you feel the need to move to a bigger home or pay someone to take care of the baby while you work. This is a real issue for most couples and when and if to go back to work. Don’t rush to make a decision on this.

Less time with your partner

Having a baby means sharing your partner's attention with a third party. It's common for a new dad to feel left out. Often you will go from the apple of your partner’s eye to a distant memory used only for emotional support, money, food and shelter. Just remember its all for a good cause and the special moments you share with your child and partner are worth it.

Loss of sexual activity

Recovery from childbirth, physical exhaustion and stress can take a toll on your sex life, which might strain your relationship. This is a concern for all new fathers and often time is needed to get back the passion after child birth. Don’t pressure your partner some things are worth waiting for.

Depression

Research shows that some fathers — like mothers — experience depression shortly after a child's birth. This is a little known detail and often fathers suffer in silence. Just be open with your partner and things will work their way out. If not don't be ashamed to reach out to other fathers and seek professional help if its a dark cloud that doesn't look like lifting.

Enjoy the ride

Be involved, laugh and have fun. Welcome to the world of parenthood.

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